CDC-Kaiser ACE Study

The CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study is one of the largest investigations of childhood abuse and neglect and later-life health and well-being.


Parental Alienation: The Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals (Behavioral Science and Law) 
Demosthenes Lorandos, William Bernet &, S. Richard Sauber (Editor) [Dec 2013]
The essential how to manual in this important and ever increasing area of behavioral science and law. Busy mental health professionals need a reference guide to aid them in developing data sources to support their positions in reports and testimony. They also need to know where to go to find the latest material on a topic. Having this material within arm s reach will avoid lengthy and time-consuming online research. For legal professionals who must ground their arguments in well thought out motions and repeated citations to case precedent, ready access to state or province specific legal citations spanning thirty-five years of parental alienation cases is provided here for the first time in one place. 


UK March 2015
Professionals who ignore child abuse face prison
British PM, David Cameron

USA February 2015

Nothing New - No Excuse - Unqualified professionals treating victims of Parental Alienation may breach Code of Ethics
Psychologist, Dr Craig Childress

IRELAND February 2015
Some parents “use children as pawns” in custody battles
Former Justice Minister, Alan Shatter, Irish Parliament

UK September 2013

Top judge's war on secret courts: Family hearings must be exposed to 'glare of publicity'
Sir James Munby, president of the Family Division of the UK High Court

Parents use courts to shut another parent out of a child’s life
''When you have heard the evidence, you realise that this is a person who's so determined to win that he or she will say anything. I'm satisfied that a number of people who have appeared before me have known that it is one of the ways of completely shutting husbands out of the child's life.”
''It's a horrible weapon.''
Justice David Collier

USA 2001

Minnesota Judge Has 200 Blunt Words for Divorcing Parents

“Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault.
No matter what you think of the other party—or what your family thinks of the other party—these children are one-half of each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an “idiot” his father is, or what a “fool” his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of him is bad.
That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love. That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.
I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children. Think more about your children and less about yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or your children will suffer.”
Judge Michael Haas [Retired Dec 2002]

Please send us any further international quotes from judges, barristers, teachers, counsellors, psychologists, politicians or other professionals that illustrate the problems of the family court system, how they are not acting in children’s best interests, or their views on separation-related Psychological Abuse (parental alienation). [Contact Us]


If you come across a child saying that s/he hates or fears one of his/her parents, where the child apparently asks not to see a parent at all, or where the child appears to be actively involved in denigrating one of their parents whilst showing little guilt or empathy for that parent, that child may well be the victim of child abuse … not from the parent they claim to hate, but from a parent who is causing them to feel and act that way.

Remarkably, it’s the absolute conviction and determination of a psychologically abused (alienated) child to say bad things about a parent, as well as a lack of guilt or empathy when doing so, that is what convinces almost everyone (from other parents to judges and most barristers and psychologists in between) that a child’s views are genuine; the very features that are some of the tell-tale signs of psychological abuse, and some of the clearest signs that what a child is saying may not be true at all, are the ones that cause the average person to believe a child and even to become emotionally engaged against the bad-mouthed parent! In many if not most cases, the “bad things” are so trivial that we’d normally take little notice of them and the parent accused of them may actually have done nothing wrong at all.

Please be aware that such cases require special training and specialist, sometimes counter-intuitive, treatment. Usual or accepted techniques of supporting and re-affirming a child’s views may cause more harm and actually perpetuate the abuse. If you follow the simple advice of Australia’s Department of Child Protection and Family Support, for instance, of “believe the child” in cases of this distinct form of abuse, you may not be doing what’s best for the child.

One of the first questions to consider should be whether or not the child’s original parents are separated or are involved in family court, or legal, proceedings. This is almost exclusively the breeding ground for this widespread, but rarely recognized, form of child abuse.

Another important question is whether there were any similar statements by the child that long pre-date the family separation or legal proceedings, or whether the allegations or negative comments about a parent have arisen only in this current context.

Be assured, though, that this separation-related Psychological Abuse (aka Parental Alienation) is entirely real. There is continuing debate within the psychological literature about what name to give it, and about how it is currently defined in professional manuals. But there is no legitimate debate about its existence. Any treating professional or counsellor unaware of this is at risk of acting in breach of professional codes of conduct or of a duty of care; any lawyer suggesting otherwise may be at risk of failing in their duty as officers of a court required to act in a child’s best interests. Any judge who denies it, or who simply doesn’t get it, should not be practicing in a Family Court.