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From Alienated Child to Reunited Son.
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For parents experiencing the results of the separation-related Psychological Abuse of their kid(s) (parental alienation), the combination of emotions is often overwhelming:
Rarely does such a constellation of extreme emotions all come together, and often all at one of the most stressful times of your life - during prolonged, arduous legal proceedings in unfamiliar and intimidating court-rooms.
For those in Australia, or who know the film Evil Angels (aka A Cry in the Dark), it could almost be termed “Lindy Chamberlain Syndrome”, after the mother who was wrongly imprisoned after her baby was taken by a dingo at the famous landmark Uluru-Ayers Rock. Just imagine, at the worst time in your life, when you're trying to deal with the grief of losing a loved child (or, worse still, the torture of knowing that you’re about to lose your child but there’s still a glimmer of hope), imagine being judged responsible for that loss. Imagine that this happened because of a series of egregious injustices. And then, as if that isn’t bad enough, imagine that your refusal to accept responsibility and your denial of your alleged role in causing the loss of your child only makes the judgment against you harsher.
Imagine that, on top of all of that, your every action and reaction is constantly scrutinized as to whether or not it matches expectations of how someone, of how everyone should behave when losing a child, or when confronted with an allegation that you’ve caused the loss of your own child. That’s without mentioning the intense stress of financial upheaval, or even imminent bankruptcy, that may be accompanying prolonged legal proceedings.
For some parents whose child is refusing to see them as a result of separation-related Psychological Abuse by a custodial parent, this is what the experience is like.
The key to engaging alienated parents is to validate their parental identity, and combine advocacy efforts with counseling focused on enhancing their role as active and responsible parents.
There’s much that can and that needs to be done:
"Your kids need you more than ever, even if they can’t yet tell you that."
Undermining Loving Parent-Child Relationships as Child Maltreatment
by Dr Edward Kruk [25 Apr 2013]
We’ve been through mountains of academic and legal paperwork to provide easy access to some of the most useful legal documents, works in psychology and other resources to try to help you through the legal minefield and the psychological nightmare…
WHAT TO DO NOW
Whatever stage of this process you’re at:
There are often days where you feel like you cannot cope. Remember that your kid(s) needs you and you need to stay healthy minded. The situation can change with the right intervention.
Coping with the Trauma of Parental Alienation
by Craig A Childress Psy.D. [03 Apr 2015]